To hurt another persons feelings is wrong, to improve another persons standard of life is good..
However, how often do we talk lowly of people? In Sikhism, this is called Nindia/Slandering.
Especially nindia of Gursikhs is extremely bad for our spiritual health.
When we talk about people we will say this person is all right, apart from....
then we mention one thing that we know/have heard about a person and that person is labelled as
"the flirt" "the snob" "the liar" "the thief"
but do we stop and think about all the good things in the person?
We really need to stop seeing the one bad thing in people, and highlighting it so to label the whole person as bad.
Everyone has good points, and to advance in this game of life we really need to focus on them. If we cant forgive or overlook someones bad points, then everytime you see them your anger/contempt will rise up. and the reason for this is hunkaar/pride...
Awps kau jo jwxY nIcw ]
aapus ko jo jaanai neechaa
One who sees himself as lowly,
soaU gnIAY sB qy aUcw ]
sooo guneeai subh thae oochaa
shall be accounted as the highest of all.
Ang 266 Siri Guru Granth Sahib Ji
nw hm cMgy AwKIAh burw n idsY koie ]
naa hum chungae aakheeah buraa n dhisai koe
I am not called good, and I see none who are bad.
naanuk houmai maareeai suchae jaehurraa soe
O Nanak, one who conquers and subdues his ego, becomes just like the True Lord. ||8||2||10||
Ang 1015 Siri Guru Granth Sahib Ji
I notice this most when people talk about certain Gursikhs, "yes they are a really good group of people, they keep sarbloh bibek, lots of naam abhiaas, never miss an amritvela, strong nitnem, but did you know..."
and this is where we falter, we need to hold our tongues. This can be very hard to do when we want to 'liven up a conversation' but not only are we harming ourselves but also anyone who is listening.